Saturday, May 16, 2015

Open Letter to My Future Husband


Dear Future Husband,

Please forgive me if I come across as snarky and slightly mistrusting in the beginning. You see, I have dated a lot of not so good guys before you. I’ve been broken. I’ve sinned. I’ve been wronged and I’ve done the wrong doing. I’ve willed the wrong and run away from what's right. I have been accused of flightlessness and manipulation. I have been lost. And at times have even lost sight of my virtue. I’ve looked for you on the street, I have prayed for you and at times I even doubted your existence. 


Even though I don’t know exactly who you’ll be yet, I think of you often. I wonder how you're living your life now. It matters to me, you know, because how you live your life now determines the kind of man you’re becoming, and the kind of man I’ll spend the rest of my life with.

Are your single years being used as time well spent? Apparently for some bizarre reason for some men, manhood doesn't come automatically. I want you to learn to really love. Learning to love is learning to put the other first. A real man loves women--all women--and wants what's best for them. And he doesn't let his desires control his actions. He controls his desires instead. I want you to develop self-control. That's important to me. I don't want to marry a man who can't control himself.

Is your love for Christ stronger than your desire for me? You see, its not enough to simply say that you love God, but I want to know that your relationship with him is active.  Can we pray together? Its important that we hold each other accountable to live life according to God’s will. Can you love me like Christ loved the church and love Nic as your own?

We have to drive each other closer to God, not away.  You see, all those not so nice guys I dated before you, the truth is I knew they weren’t you from the beginning. But my desire for attention caused me to turn away from that truth. But the woman I am today, secure in who she is in Christ, understands her value and is holding tight to her virtue. This woman, has let go of her search for you, the Bible says that “when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing” so for now I will use my singleness as time well spent, studying God’s word, doing his work, keeping my home, raising my son and writing blog post about how I will wait for you.

8 comments :


  1. Your letter is wonderful. Having been in a similar situation, I can tell you from the heart a good man is worth the wait. Happy to have found you through Grow Your Blog

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    1. Thank you. The wait isnt easy but I know it will be worth it!

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  2. I think is a good thing that you know what you want, and how you want it.

    Kudos to you😊

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  3. Such good, good words to your future mate. May God answer your prayers and present you with a God-fearing man at His perfect, appointed time.

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  4. This letter is so touching. I know it seems like we're the loneliest but when you love yourself and your life, all good things will come to you. Always keep writing. :)

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  5. This is beautiful You're a really good writer. There's a song called Just Haven't Met You Yet about his. #GrowYourBlog.
    Nice to meet you.
    Janice

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    1. Thank you Janice. I'm going to check out that song

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  6. Beautiful post, Saprina! I pray for you my sister in Christ that God sends the one he picked especially for you :)

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